I had planned to write another one of my traditional New Year posts to kick off 2017, but with so many things going on during the last few months, I never did get around to it.
And now, we’re already over a quarter through 2017. How is your year going so far?
For me, my 2017 has been way better than expected overall, and while it can be a variety reasons, I’ve narrowed it down to one top change I’ve made this year.
I finally made the time to focus back on me.
This means doing what I’ve always wanted to do – alone (I do my best work on my own). No team. No business partners. No mentees. No one to drag me down.
Guess what? After closing off all the drama, distractions and noise, I’ve never been more happy, focused or productive.
So much so – That I’ve probably spent over 3/4 of this year on holiday, and used that 1/4 of the remaining time to launch 5 new products within the span of just a few weeks (with several more top secret projects on the way).
Life’s too precious to be doing anything other than things you enjoy with those you love.
Of course, just because you try your best to avoid drama, it doesn’t mean that drama won’t find its way to you.
To this end, I would also like to use this opportunity to announce that on a business standpoint, I am also no longer linked to any person or group at this time, including, but not limited to, those who have since become noble scam busters, targeted as scammers as well as those who may have somehow damaged their own reputations through unethical business practices and are now looking for someone to blame.
On multiple occasions with several people already so far, I have been made aware of publicity stunts whereby individuals or groups had been targeted, and some of those times, I was even accused of being the one behind a few of the campaigns.
In addition, I’ve also been notified of gossip that’s been spread about me attacking my personal character to the laughable point where it seems like I am bullying, harassing or even stealing assets I clearly do not need.
This is where part of my lesson comes in, and how you can learn from my experiences to prevent yourself from making similar mistakes in the future.
In life, there will always be haters – People who want to strike at you, play the victim, and accuse you of all sorts of things – simply because they’re resentful towards you for some reason, or none at all.
When people do something wrong and suffer the consequences, if rather than learning from their mistakes and figuring out how to solve their problems and move forward, they choose to run away from their mistakes, point fingers and attempt the public shaming route, it’s evident that there is something very wrong with them.
Accusations of wrong doing is nothing new to me and I often expect them, simply because it’s easy to assume and takes? responsibility away from their own actions.
Plus – People tend to believe any tall tales and blatant lies these days, so it’s pretty much pointless to convince anyone otherwise if they choose to believe the liars (it’s much more convenient to believe than to question).
That’s why over the years, I’ve become immune to what people think or say about me, and I simply sit back and let the unprofessional public spectacles take place (although if you ask me, if someone is so quick to find a person to openly blame and gather masses of people on their side to “defend” themselves without accepting that maybe they did make mistakes, and willing to consider alternative possibilities of what happened and should do next to resolve their issues, he or she is clearly avoiding or even hiding their own faults).
And when people’s instincts once problems do occur is to turn hostile, become disrespectful to authority figures and create an unreasonable scene while making both legal and personal threats down to the family level (you really can’t do both), there’s nothing more that you can do for them as they have evidently fallen off the deep end mentally, even believing in their own lies that they’re spreading and will convince anyone gullible enough to listen to do the same.
In the end, all are actions from someone whose “body has shit” (as we say in Chinese), meaning they are obviously guilty and putting in over-the-top effort to persuade others that they are actually the victim.
It’s always the strong and righteous ones who have the courage to stand alone and fight alone, while the weak and guilty ones feel the need to align their own cults and brainwash people into taking their side against whatever it is their evil minds want to take down.
Personally, I find no reason to have to defend myself in something so ludicrous, so even while all the rumors and straight out accusations are going on, I hadn’t officially come out to provide full details of my side of the stories like how my attackers have done to me.
However, for anyone with half a brain, I will say all it takes is a little common sense to understand the logic.
For most of the year so far, I’ve been on vacation with family and with the limited time I’ve spent online, I quietly launched 5 products already and planning to launch several more plus additional projects.
Obviously, I have better things to do than to partake in something so petty against people who are so insignificant to me.
I’ve had plenty of relationships that went sour over the years, and none of them had this happen to them, so why do I need to start now on small people who are perfectly capable of ruining their own reputations?
And for now… I’m on vacation, and have been for weeks.
I’d rather be spending time with my family, hanging out with my father who flew halfway across the world to meet us and celebrating my baby girl’s birthday with numerous parties we’ve thrown for her in various cities.
Also, when I have a few moments to myself at various times during the day, I like to spend it watching videos, catching up on reading or playing my favorite games, which can add up to hours on a daily basis.
Bottom line – I have no interest in anything irrelevant that takes away from my quality family time or anything else that I actually enjoy doing.
The kicker? These supposed “destruction campaigns” that panicked them so much into defense and attack modes are 100% reversible (with methods I have also since shared publicly) and would never “destroy” someone in the first place.
I mean, if it did work, wouldn’t public figures, famous company brands and powerful politicians like Apple, Donald Trump and Tony Robbins be “destroyed?”
Yet, they’re not, so think about it… why would I even bother wasting my time like this?
And still, without second thought, allegations and verbal assaults begin to fly both publicly and privately which includes loaded personal attacks and even attempted personal threats.
Seriously – With accusations so silly, and intimidation tactics so juvenile, who is attacking who? And who now has more ground for a legal battle targeting open slander, direct libel and attempted personal or brand defamation (not to mention potential invasion of privacy, illegal recording, breach of confidence, misuse of personal details, baseless accusations, sharing private information without consent, copyright infringement, threats of illegal use of unlawfully recorded conversations, threats of involving family, attempted theft of personal property and company assets – the list goes on and on)? :)
People really do need to think things through before so easily believing something just because it’s convenient, but actually, it doesn’t matter to me one way or another whether anyone does, which is why this is only as much as I plan to say about this ordeal.
The only thing I could have done which I didn’t was continuing to prevent these things from happening, things I had been doing consistently before to protect them, which I was no longer obligated to do and therefore stopped, resulting in their problems reaching the public eye.
Although off the record, in more than one of the instances for a few of the individuals, I’ve actually put in my own time and effort to help resolve the issues for the good of everyone involved, but that’s of course nothing you will ever hear anyone talk about (which is perfectly fine with me).
I will admit that I’m not simply doing this out of kindness or sympathy towards the target, but rather, it’s because this is also negatively affecting me as well (I’m associated with this group, seen as one of the mentors and the content also mentions me), along with whole groups linked to the situations, a few of whom I still consider as friends.
That’s the other thing – why put in all the effort to create a problem only to volunteer to fix it without telling anybody? And to talk bad about myself, too? Throw all my hard work from the past two years down the drain, affecting my own passive income?
C’mon, man. :) Common sense, people. Common sense.
Regardless, I don’t expect for anyone affected to change their perception, but at least I know I didn’t do anything wrong and on the contrary, am in fact proactively doing the right thing on something that has nothing to do with me, even if no one is looking or bothers to see things on my side.
Over the years, I’ve shared invaluable knowledge, created countless success stories, and changed plenty of lives, but not everyone will appreciate them, show gratitude or even acknowledge your efforts, and wouldn’t think twice to betray your trust and twist the knife behind your back on their way out.
That’s why I’ve learned to choose relationships wisely, and if your friends had previously warned you about entering any kind of personal or business relationship with someone, listen to them.
They may see things about them that you can’t, and it’s neither your responsibility to change their lives, nor should it be your burden to do so.
If you must have business partners, only work with humble, loyal and grateful people on the same level as you whom you can trust.
Moving forward, I’ll be spending less time with people I’m not close with and don’t trust, not only outside in social settings, but also on social media and networking sites.
I won’t be wasting my time on anyone or anything that provides no value to me or my businesses, and neither should you.
Rather, I will quietly work on my projects, enjoy my private family vacations and silently create more successes in my own businesses.
Nobody needs to know. Besides, it’s none of their business.
By keeping a low profile while focusing on value, positivity and only a handful of meaningful relationships, plus cutting off all the noise, nonsense drama and widespread negativity caused by insignificant people who got nothing ?better to do than to play immature games that have no place in your life, that leaves space for you to focus back on the important things that truly matter.
In turn, you will become a lot more happy, focused and productive in everything you do.
Hope my own experiences and lessons are helpful and that you can use this to also make what remains of 2017 your best year yet!
P.S. There’s obviously been a lot of baseless accusations which, with the evidence I have in hand that I’ve chosen not to disclose publicly, clearly shows the accusers to be dilusional (100% of those who have seen it unanimously agree), not only fabricating their own lies, but evidently legitimately believing them and spreading them to anyone who would listen.
However, as I have never been one to openly talk about people, I won’t scoop down to their level, release any details unlawfully and simply leave the gossiping? and illegal actions to the real culprits. They are obviously guilty and have something to hide.
Nonetheless, for those who are directly and indirectly impacted in any of the several scandals that have been sweeping our industry lately and would like to understand more the full situations and how they will affect your own success, reach out to me privately and I will be happy to refer you towards the appropriate resources to help resolve your problems and clear up any pending misunderstandings.
P.P.S. If you would also like to see my resources for your own reputation management, you can follow some of the basic tips from the resources I had previously shared on Facebook: